Anyone have any experience of how the death of a partner's mam/dad can affect your own relationship? My own long term gf's dad died today and I reckon it'll be the end of us. We had previously broken up last August and got back together two months later but I didn't move back in properly til a few weeks ago. Know it's selfish but I fear the worst.
My wife had lost her Dad before we met, not long before actually, but I can honestly say that when I lost my old man 11 years ago my missus was a rock for me. We both then lost our Mums within a few months of one another nearly 4 years ago now and once again we were there for each other. I would have thought that this could bring you together not push you away?
[quote="1985casual"]Sorry to hear that mate. Personally I would have thought it would bring you closer together, she will need your support at a hard time like this.[/quote]
It's a strange one because my gf actually had no time for her dad. Problem is I fucked up last year (you can guess) and she's already spoke about this being the start getting all the bad things out of her life! Gonna be a weird few weeks I think
I personally don't think you can change whatever will go on in her mind mate sorry, probably the most powerful part of life is death, not just dealing with it but how it sends you in different directions than you would probably go.
Sorry To Hear The Sad News. My Wife's Parent's Are Both Unfortunately Dead Her Dad Died From Cancer Not Long After We Got Married In 1990 & Her Mum Died Also From Cancer In 2003 & On Both Occassions It Made Us Stronger A Couple. I Tried To Be Strong & Support & Comfort Mary & Always Tried To Be There If She Needed A Shoulder To Cry On. & Her Mum Would Have Been 80 Yesterday..
[quote="casualcol"]Anyone have any experience of how the death of a partner's mam/dad can affect your own relationship? My own long term gf's dad died today and I reckon it'll be the end of us. We had previously broken up last August and got back together two months later but I didn't move back in properly til a few weeks ago. Know it's selfish but I fear the worst.[/quote]
Your gonna go through a roller coaster of emotions with her, hang on, your in for a bumpy ride. Just be there for her, she's gonna need you more now than ever mate, be strong.
[quote="casualcol"][quote="1985casual"]Sorry to hear that mate. Personally I would have thought it would bring you closer together, she will need your support at a hard time like this.[/quote]
It's a strange one because my gf actually had no time for her dad. Problem is I fucked up last year (you can guess) and she's already spoke about this being the start getting all the bad things out of her life! Gonna be a weird few weeks I think [/quote]
If you got back together then surely she musn't see your relationship as a bad thing....
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